The difficulties in life mainly stem from the emotional trauma that one goes through post-divorce. When at one moment your life is hinged to your husband the next moment you have to find ways to let go off the past and continue with your new life. From emotional hardship to economical, you have to sort your life to start afresh. Especially in the society where every time you go out you would feel like being stared at or talked about in hush tones. These are all surmounting factors which do not have any bearings on your life yet affect your life.
The one thing to understand is that it is only a phase which will pass. You have to find your strength and work towards building a life full of happiness and of peace for your children. Children act as a strong support base in the situation like these. They offer you unconditional love and support and do not expect anything else other than your love. They would in any ways sense something amiss from your behavior or expressions. It is always comforting to share your feelings with your children and make them part of your journey. They will feel attached and certainly contribute their bit to help you.
Here is how you can go about starting your new life:
Getting your act right as a single mother
You can no longer be dependent on your ex to help you out with your life. You have to by yourself start doing things. You have to start being independent and set your own rules. Your children have to see your transformation so that they can put their faith in your abilities and trust the decisions which you make for the family. That does not mean you do not have to act cordial whenever your ex-comes to visit children or in a case of any formalities. It probably will take time before you start doing things on your own. Do not hesitate to ask for help from your friends or family members.
How to manage finances
Even if you have got an adequate settlement from your divorce you have to start something of your own to support your financial expenditure. When once you were living in your own home post-divorce you might have to settle in an apartment or live with a relative. Besides the accommodation, you have to ensure that your children do not face any financial issue on the educational front.
You have to prepare for any medical emergency that might crop due to some injury or because of medical malpractice. If you require financial assistance asking for help from your friends or family is a good idea as you can pay them back when you are economically stable. Half of your problems will be eliminated if you are able to handle your finances.
Set your priorities
See what is important at the moment rather fretting over the future. When you set your priorities and act accordingly you are sure to benefit from the decisions you make. Is it the financial aspect which needs your attention or is your child at the moment bit exhausted with everything that is going on? If possible going on a trip with your kid might eliminate a bit of stress that you have feeling lately.
Once you are back you can focus on the task at hand. Divide your day into tasks and make sure you complete them without fail. At times you might feel low or overwhelmed with the situation at hand. Do not isolate yourself from your loved ones and if possible let them do their bit to help you.
Embrace your new life
You cannot stop living or be bogged down by circumstances. The fact that you have got a chance to start your life afresh might be a bit intimidating to start but with time you will only get stronger and will have more confidence in our abilities to face any kind of situation that may crop up. No longer do you have to make decisions based on what your husband wants rather you can go about making your decisions and make sure that your kid strengthens from the fight that you put up to come out of the harsh situation.
Everything you do you have to ensure that you are keeping your children in the loop. So be it any professional decision or any personal one. Your children can help you decide better and take decisions that are only to be received well by your family.